We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so often currently of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and the individuals to whom we say it.
We are all unique people who have our own unique needs and desires; and the majority of us are united within our quest for the very same thing – to feel New Year 2020. Many of us are striving with this state of ‘happiness’; and yet many people are looking inside the wrong location for it – and settling for any temporary mood-enhancer by means of alcohol, drugs, a new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are full of ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – the majority of which can be just plain good sense! No one is definitely the expert for you! Only you know – or want to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is an additional person’s burden.
If you now take into consideration what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to having a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is observed in general society.
Happiness for you depends upon your personal level of personal and spiritual awareness, and your ability to create happiness as being a state of mind that you simply can return to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is really not enough to easily ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself as being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What most of us don’t realise is that we have two mind-sets about everything in our life, which two minds can attend odds with one another. This conflict can include the degrees of happiness we are ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t think that we deserve it, or that people would benefit from it – it just isn’t going to come our way. Our outer lives are just ever a reflection in our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies tend not to access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the exact opposite. This is known as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – and it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give away that subsequently affects those around us.
We have neurons within our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion we are witnessing outside of us. For example when we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we are instinctively developed to feel something similar. This connection goes past mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of comparable things having happened to us previously. We are significantly afflicted with being around Merry Christmas, whose emotions we then ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may be wearing; that will be a false-self they present around the world being an try to hide their real feelings and desires. This may well have been set up in childhood when it was encouraged and expected which they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for the family’s sake; and to stuff down their real feelings including anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which was real, but ‘unacceptable’ through the family/care-giver.
So many people are so familiar with wearing a mask that they cannot imagine a life without one, or how to get it away! Their eyes will often provide the game away regarding their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if another person is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
Everyone has a ‘base-line’ amount of happiness at any stage inside our lives – that is formed from your past experiences and also the meaning we gave for them; and naturally the effects these have had upon our sub-conscious mind and also the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% in the full level of happiness we are designed for experiencing on the present time. A further 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events like the lottery win; or perhaps a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic plastic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and that we soon return to our base level once more.
The fantastic news though is that the remaining 40% of happiness available to you – hails from YOU! This really is scientifically validated and forms a central element of Positive Psychology.
You can find 12 means of facilitating more happiness from your own actions and thoughts, and also by the releasing your personal blockages. A few of these ways include figuring out how to develop a more optimistic and focused method of life; to maintain your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness into your life. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Improving your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell in your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and for that reason your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to your calmness from the mind… observing what is, rather than forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; instead of worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To view the Happy New Year 2020 in every tiny moment instead of only focusing ahead of the present time; or dwelling inside the unchangeable past. The sole time you truly have is that this moment and also the next breath. Make the most of these whilst you still need them.